The Good Daughter Syndrome-
Practical Strategies for Dealing with a Narcissistic/ Borderline or Difficult Mother
You can’t go on like this.
That's the one thing you know for sure.
Your mother's insults, intrusions, and the endless arguments are ruining your life.
It’s time for a change.
You need some real-life, actionable strategies you can put into practice today.
If-
-No matter how hard you try, it’s never good enough for Mom
-Mom weighs in on all your decisions and gives you unwanted advice.
-You have the same arguments over and over, never getting anywhere
-You can’t say “no” without feeling guilty
-You don’t know how to set boundaries, OR you can’t stick to the boundaries you set
- You don’t know if you should go no contact or low contact
What if you knew exactly what to say and how to say it?
What if you could be 100% confident that you weren’t the problem:
you could see through her irrational behavior
you knew what made her tick
you wouldn’t take it personally
you wouldn’t fall for her guilt trips.
What if you could stop the crazy and take back your time and energy?
What if you could get off the emotional roller coaster and into the driver’s seat of your life?
Why Would You Listen To Me?
I, too, was just like you, stuck and letting my mother run my life, wondering...
if it was ME who had the problem. Maybe I was unreasonable or just too sensitive.
I know firsthand how frustrating, heartbreaking, and demoralizing it can be to be in a relationship with a mother who is difficult, really difficult.
Yet, I still wanted to be fair and kind.
I found my way out to peace, clarity, and, best of all, freedom.
After over 30 years of helping daughters like you in psychotherapy, coaching, and online, I’ve summarized a practical guide for you to follow...
if you want to
See what drives your mother’s behavior so you don’t take it personally.
Avoid and/or shut down arguments you can’t win.
Set boundaries you can stick to.
Say no without feeling guilty.
Know you aren’t crazy, and you’re not the problem.
Realize it’s not your job to take care of her.
Be kind without being a conflict-avoidant doormat.
Quit giving her second chances; she doesn’t deserve.
Avoid getting reeled back in with guilt trips.
I give you
An in-depth understanding of the psychology behind your mother’s dysfunction to know why it wasn’t you after all.
A step-by-step system for setting boundaries that set you up for success
Sample scripts for what to say and how to say it to take control of the communications
Mindset exercises to reset your childhood programming to shift from vulnerable child to empowered adult woman
You need tools, tactics, and techniques … all practical strategies for dealing with your difficult mother.
Social proof: testimonials
"(Your Course) has completely changed the way I understand my mom and my relationship with her. I am setting healthy boundaries and focusing on my healing so that this narcissistic behavior does not continue with me."
“Dear Katherine,
Thank you so much for this wonderful course. It has completely changed the way I understand my mom and my relationship with her. It has also given me insight into my mom’s relationship wither her mother. I believe wounds drive my mom’s behavior - which is not an excuse- but understanding this has helped me respond and deal with her more effectively.
I’m working on not making excuses for her, not expecting her to be someone she can not be, and not trying to fix her.
I am setting healthy boundaries and focusing on my healing so that this narcissistic behavior does not continue with me. My desire is to honor my mom with kindness and compassion but not allow her to manipulate and control me. “
Again, thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom.”
Pam McD
Social proof: testimonials
"...but that horrible guilt was still there.... I bought your course and got enormous relief"
"...that horrible guilt was still there. I was thinking about my mom every day. Until one day, I was desperately trying to fix that guilt so I can move on, so I started to surf the internet, and then, this is where I found you. I bought your course and got enormous relief.”
Social proof: testimonials
"Her advice has helped me separate from my own narcissistic mother and how to put my needs first and not become enmeshed. I highly recommend this course."
"I truly enjoyed Katherine’s course. While there is an abundance of information about narcissistic mothers online, there isn’t much information for the daughters to handle this complicated relationship. Katherine’s course fulfills that need. She offers specific strategies to try and survive that relationship. The mindset shifts at the end of each module are life-changing. Her advice has helped me separate from my own narcissistic mother and how to put my needs first and not become enmeshed. I highly recommend this course."
Social Proof: Testimonials
"She helped me figure out things about myself that have bothered me for years"
If you are struggling with ‘mother issues’ or any other issues, I
cannot recommend Katherine highly enough. She helped me figure
out things about myself that have bothered me for years, that I never
understood, that I thought were just part of being ‘screwed up. I wish
I’d found her 10 years sooner.
Social proof: testimonials
"I'm so glad I found Katherine's website and courses–they have been SUPER informative and helped me feel seen and finally not so alone."
I came across this Daughter's Rising website and resource at a time of extreme desperation. I had just had another one of those explosive talks with my mom & just felt so much anger, hurt, and confusion. I didn't have a name for what I was going through, but I knew that it wasn't normal or healthy.
I'm so glad I found Katherine's website and courses–they have been SUPER informative and helped me feel seen and finally not so alone.
Social proof: testimonials
"If you, too want to break the generational trauma and toxicity within your daughter/mother relationship & gain clarity, look no further and take Katherine's course! "
After taking this course, I finally feel like I am on the right path to healing years worth of guilt and resentment. If you, too want to break the generational trauma and toxicity within your daughter/mother relationship & gain clarity, look no further and take Katherine's course! Thank you so much, Katherine.
$250
8 Modules - includes videos, transcripts, audios, and PDFs with scripts.
Module One
What’s Wrong With My Mother?
Learn the truth about why your mother is so critical, needy, intrusive, and self-centered.
See how a Difficult/Narcissistic/Borderline mother uses her children to get her needs met.
Find out what Mom is hiding from you (and herself).
Understand why you can’t fix Mom.
Spot 3 ways Mom programs you to take care of her.
Recognize the tell-tale signs of Narcissistic and Borderline Traits and the essential difference between them.
Learn why Mom’s behavior is not normal and not okay.
Expose the underlying psychological motivations that drive Mom’s hurtful behaviors ..so that you will know how to deal with it more effectively.
Module Two
Why You Might Feel It’s Your Fault When It Isn’t
Learn how you have been set up to think you are the problem and how to reverse it.
Recognize the tricks your survival brain plays on you.
Uncover the 4 hidden unconscious agreements that trap you into putting mom’s needs ahead of your own.
Find out if your mother still has a hidden unconscious hold on you.
Rewrite the 4 unconscious agreements to escape the traps.
Determine how you have been programmed to feel lesser, guilty, doubtful, and/or ashamed… so you will know why it’s not your fault.
Module Three
Stop Feeling “Never Good Enough”
Discover the real reason you can’t win.
Put into action 3 plans to nullify Mom’s attempts to put you down.
Uncover 3 sneaky ways Mom makes you feel lesser and keeps you under her thumb.
Learn a technique for deflecting Mom’s criticisms so they don’t stick.
Unlearn the 3 reflexive habits that undermine your power.
Understand why it is impossible to please Mom… so you can let go of (needlessly) working for her approval or believing her criticisms.
Module Four
How To Say 'No' Without Letting Guilt Stop You
Learn where your overblown sense of guilt comes from.
Discover how you were programmed to feel guilty for the normal longing to grow up and away.
Stop letting guilt hold you hostage to your mother’s needs.
Figure out how to stop feeling responsible for your mother’s happiness.
Get off the guilt/resentment roller coaster with this one technique.
How to take care of yourself AND feel like a good person.
Answer these 4 questions to reveal if you are still under the spell of an unconscious agreement that keeps you feeling guilty.
Neutralize the excessive guilt so that you can set boundaries, stand up for yourself or say no, and… still feel like a good person.
Module Five
Stand Up To Mom With Confidence
Identify the secret leverage you have over mom… that she doesn’t want you to realize.
Learn this straightforward tactic to shift the power balance in your favor.
Become aware of the 3 ways you signal your submissiveness without even knowing it.
Command respect from Mom with this one tactic.
How to stop mom in her tracks the next time she tries to bully you.
Learn to stand up to mom… so that you can be self-confident and in control.
Module Six
Set Boundaries That Stick
Implement the 4-step guide to set boundaries you can stick to.
Unpack 3 reasons setting a boundary can feel wrong when you know it’s the right thing to do.
Pinpoint the essential difference between a relational and a power boundary and when to use each.
Avoid these 3 common pitfalls when setting a boundary.
Learn the trauma responses that give away your power and how to counter them.
Interrupt the conditioned impulse to be obedient with this simple technique.
Stop feeling run over, intruded upon, and bullied with this fool-proof method for setting boundaries… so that you can take charge of your life.
Module Seven
How to Spot Gaslighting and Strategies to Deal With It
See-through to the real reason Mom gaslights you.
Deconstruct the 6 types of gaslighting and see how each type attempts to discredit and confuse you.
Prepare with specific strategies for shutting down each type of gaslighting.
Identify what separates a healthy disagreement from gaslighting and why it matters.
Disarm the gaslighter with these empowering comebacks that are polite but firm.
Adopt this mindset that makes you gaslight-proof.
See the manipulation tactics in gaslighting for what they are… so that you won’t fall for them.
Module Eight
Should you go no contact or low contact?
Learn this step-by-step method for figuring out what level of contact is best for you.
Avoid this critical mistake most daughters make when going low or no contact.
Discover when going no contact is the best and only choice.
How to spot the psychological difference between an impossible mother from one who can change.
Discover 3 good reasons for taking a break in contact.
Learn this alternative to no contact that gives you more options.
Stop feeling at the mercy of your mother’s disordered behavior… and devise a plan for the level contact that protects and empowers you.
Bonus
Sample Scripts for when Mom wants back in.
What if Mom wants you to let her back in?
What if she wants a second chance?
Or.... what if you can't find the words to tell her what she's done wrong and what she should do differently?
Social Proof: Testimonials
"Your research and care has given hope to many of us where there was never any at all."
Your work is so important to ladies like us that have dealt with our soul-sucking (let’s just call it what it is, right? (lol) mothers since birth. Your research and care has given hope to many of us where there was never any at all. To restore hope in the life and mind of another human being is without a doubt the greatest gift one could give another. Just……thank you.
Social proof: testimonials
" Katherine's ability to speak to our deeper-seeded truths....is almost spooky"
"Katherine’s ability to speak to deeper-seeded truths that affect our daily lives in our behavior, relationships and life experience is beyond insightful – it’s almost spooky!"
Social proof: testimonials
The guilt was always there...I bought your course and got enormous relief.”
“But…that horrible guilt was still there. I was thinking about my mom every day. Until one day, I was desperately trying to fix that guilt so I can move on, so I started to surf the internet, and then, this is where I found you. I bought your course and got enormous relief. I bought your course and got enormous relief.”
$250
8 Modules - includes videos, transcripts, audios, and PDFs with scripts.
Social proof: testimonials
Katherine’s judgment-free and kind approach, guided by her decades of counseling experience..."
“Katherine’s judgment-free and kind approach, guided by her decades of counseling experience and her intuitive intelligence, gave me ease and strength to make choices that would elevate my relationships.”